16 Ways to Use Good Body Language
In
accordance with my article last week (What You Doing This error 9 In
conversation?), This time I will discuss the importance of using good
body language. Improve body language can make a big difference when someone assess your personality. Good body language to show that you had the capacity, allure and a positive mood. For example: if you often smile, you will feel happier. If you sit with a robust, you will feel more energetic. If you slow down your movement (not in a rush), you will feel more relaxed.
Broadly speaking, body language consists of how you sit, how you stand, how you can use both hands and feet, as well as what you do when talking to someone.
Below are some of the body language that you need to keep in mind when talking to someone:
1. Do not Cross your feet and hands.
You may have often heard that crossing the arms or legs can indicate that you are closed to you and this friend does not create a good relationship talks. Open your hand and always position your feet.
2. Perform eye contact, but not staring.
By doing contact points on your friend you can make contact proceedings be better and you can see what they're listening to you or not. But also not by staring at him (continuously), because it will make your friend you become agitated.If you are not used to make contact points on your friend does, indeed you will feel discomfort at the very first time. But just do it directly and you will get used one day.
3. Make the distance between your feet.
Gives the distance between the feet (not bridged) good in standing or sitting position shows that you are confident enough and comfortable with your position.
4. Santaikan shoulders.
When you feel tense, you will feel even tension on both shoulders. Typically seen from a slightly upraised shoulder position and move forward. Try to reduce the tension by moving your shoulders and back Move back or leaning position.
5. Nod when you're talking to your friend.
Nod indicates that you indeed were listening. But it does not mean you nod over (continuously and fast) :) woodpecker entitlements, because you will look like a far-fetched.
6. Do not bend over, sit up straight.
Bend indicates that you are not passionate, and here the meaning is fixed upright in the corridor relaxed, not tense.
7. Lean, but not too much.
If you want to show that you are interested in what is conveyed by your friend you, tilt your body slightly toward her. But do not be too overly inclined because you look like will ask for something.If you want to point out that you're pretty confident and relaxed, slightly tilt your body backwards. But also do not be so inclined, because you will look arrogant.
8. Smiling and laughing.
Bercerialah, do not be too serious. Relax, smile and even laugh if someone tells a funny thing. People will tend to listen to you if you are seen as a positive. But also do not be the first time laugh if you own a funny story of him, because you will be impressed nervous and like asking to be pitied.Smile when you are acquainted with someone, but do not be constantly smiling because you are considered to keep something behind your smile.
9. But keep your head position remains straight.
Do not look down when you talk to someone. You will look like is not comfortable talking to you and your friend look like someone who does not believe in yourself.
10. Do not rush.
This can happen to anything. For those of you who have a habit of running fast, try to slow down your street occasionally. Besides you will look more calm and confident, you'll feel your stress level is reduced.
11. Avoid movements that show that you are nervous.
As touching your face, shaking your foot or your fingers rapped on the table quickly. Such movements suggest that you get nervous and can be distracting your friend or the person who is speaking to you.
12. Efektifkan use your hands.
Than you use your hands for things that can distract your opponent's discretion, as mentioned in point 11 above, the better you use your hands to help clarify what you say.
13. Lower your drinks.
Often we talk to someone while holding glasses of drink in front of our chest. This attitude is somewhat less good because it will make the 'distance' that pretty much between you and your friend you. Lower the position of your drinks, even if you have to hold it up in the near distance.
14. Do not stand too close.
In my article: How to Know Someone Being Lied, I was a little comment that people are changing the position to be too close to the opponent discretion may indicate that he is hiding something or have a specific purpose. In addition of course will make the opponent discretion be uncomfortable. Always guard your distance 's privacy between you and your friend you.
15. Glassy.
In the books on sale, I often find the term of this glass. In essence when two people are connected and having discussions that are positive, they are not aware of each other mutually glass. In a sense you'll be a little mimic your body language your friend, and vice versa.You can also perform proactive glass technique (the unconscious) to further improve the quality of your relationship and your friend you. For example, if your friend is a little down on his front stoop, you can also bend your body forward. If your friend is you put one hand on the table, you can also do the same. However it should be kept in mind, do not do artificial movement with a very short time interval and almost all movement imitated. Your friend you will see a strange and looked like a circus. :)
16. Take care always your attitude.
What do you think will flow through your body language and can be a huge difference to the quality of your relationship and your friend you. Stay on alert attitude positive, open and relaxed.
Keep in mind that you can change the poor body language, of course as long as you understand that to create a new habit requires a process. Do not even try doing everything at once because it will make you confused and tired.
Focus only on 2-3 body language that your priorities and continually improve to 3-4 weeks. After this you will create a new habit. Then you can extend it again for the next 2-3 body language.
Broadly speaking, body language consists of how you sit, how you stand, how you can use both hands and feet, as well as what you do when talking to someone.
Below are some of the body language that you need to keep in mind when talking to someone:
1. Do not Cross your feet and hands.
You may have often heard that crossing the arms or legs can indicate that you are closed to you and this friend does not create a good relationship talks. Open your hand and always position your feet.
2. Perform eye contact, but not staring.
By doing contact points on your friend you can make contact proceedings be better and you can see what they're listening to you or not. But also not by staring at him (continuously), because it will make your friend you become agitated.If you are not used to make contact points on your friend does, indeed you will feel discomfort at the very first time. But just do it directly and you will get used one day.
3. Make the distance between your feet.
Gives the distance between the feet (not bridged) good in standing or sitting position shows that you are confident enough and comfortable with your position.
4. Santaikan shoulders.
When you feel tense, you will feel even tension on both shoulders. Typically seen from a slightly upraised shoulder position and move forward. Try to reduce the tension by moving your shoulders and back Move back or leaning position.
5. Nod when you're talking to your friend.
Nod indicates that you indeed were listening. But it does not mean you nod over (continuously and fast) :) woodpecker entitlements, because you will look like a far-fetched.
6. Do not bend over, sit up straight.
Bend indicates that you are not passionate, and here the meaning is fixed upright in the corridor relaxed, not tense.
7. Lean, but not too much.
If you want to show that you are interested in what is conveyed by your friend you, tilt your body slightly toward her. But do not be too overly inclined because you look like will ask for something.If you want to point out that you're pretty confident and relaxed, slightly tilt your body backwards. But also do not be so inclined, because you will look arrogant.
8. Smiling and laughing.
Bercerialah, do not be too serious. Relax, smile and even laugh if someone tells a funny thing. People will tend to listen to you if you are seen as a positive. But also do not be the first time laugh if you own a funny story of him, because you will be impressed nervous and like asking to be pitied.Smile when you are acquainted with someone, but do not be constantly smiling because you are considered to keep something behind your smile.
9. But keep your head position remains straight.
Do not look down when you talk to someone. You will look like is not comfortable talking to you and your friend look like someone who does not believe in yourself.
10. Do not rush.
This can happen to anything. For those of you who have a habit of running fast, try to slow down your street occasionally. Besides you will look more calm and confident, you'll feel your stress level is reduced.
11. Avoid movements that show that you are nervous.
As touching your face, shaking your foot or your fingers rapped on the table quickly. Such movements suggest that you get nervous and can be distracting your friend or the person who is speaking to you.
12. Efektifkan use your hands.
Than you use your hands for things that can distract your opponent's discretion, as mentioned in point 11 above, the better you use your hands to help clarify what you say.
13. Lower your drinks.
Often we talk to someone while holding glasses of drink in front of our chest. This attitude is somewhat less good because it will make the 'distance' that pretty much between you and your friend you. Lower the position of your drinks, even if you have to hold it up in the near distance.
14. Do not stand too close.
In my article: How to Know Someone Being Lied, I was a little comment that people are changing the position to be too close to the opponent discretion may indicate that he is hiding something or have a specific purpose. In addition of course will make the opponent discretion be uncomfortable. Always guard your distance 's privacy between you and your friend you.
15. Glassy.
In the books on sale, I often find the term of this glass. In essence when two people are connected and having discussions that are positive, they are not aware of each other mutually glass. In a sense you'll be a little mimic your body language your friend, and vice versa.You can also perform proactive glass technique (the unconscious) to further improve the quality of your relationship and your friend you. For example, if your friend is a little down on his front stoop, you can also bend your body forward. If your friend is you put one hand on the table, you can also do the same. However it should be kept in mind, do not do artificial movement with a very short time interval and almost all movement imitated. Your friend you will see a strange and looked like a circus. :)
16. Take care always your attitude.
What do you think will flow through your body language and can be a huge difference to the quality of your relationship and your friend you. Stay on alert attitude positive, open and relaxed.
Keep in mind that you can change the poor body language, of course as long as you understand that to create a new habit requires a process. Do not even try doing everything at once because it will make you confused and tired.
Focus only on 2-3 body language that your priorities and continually improve to 3-4 weeks. After this you will create a new habit. Then you can extend it again for the next 2-3 body language.
